Pairbonder Characteristics | Tournament Male

Introduction

Throughout history, men were mostly tournament males. These days, they are programmed to be pairbonders. Here’s a list of their key characteristics, and why they struggle to have the life and relationships they want.

1. They pedestalize women

A pairbonder fundamentally prioritizes his woman’s needs over his own. He does this because he is easily guilted that his needs are selfish. The priority is keeping the union at all costs, so he’ll compromise on his desires to keep the peace.

The priority is keeping the union at all costs, so he’ll compromise on his desires to keep the peace.

3. They don’t have options

They don’t prioritize their own story, and often never take the steps to achieve high status and cultivate options—whether in business or having women desire them. They are scared to assert themselves, so they wait for opportunities to come to them.

Women recognize this leverage, knowing they can commit horrors to a man without options, turning his life into being a glorified task-rabbit for her ambitions. With no options, he can never escape this prison. But he doesn’t want to, because his story doesn’t matter.

4. They want to be taken care of

Along the lines of abdicating to the cultural frame, they have psychological machinery that expects their earning potential to be provided to them, much like an Upper Paleolithic man would have had a cultural role prepared for him since birth.

They prefer long-term careers or government jobs, with benefits and retirement packages that provide long-term security. They would rather grumble and complain about the mundane nature of their provisioning than face chaotic reality to carve out their own path.

5. They try to trade favours for sex

They do not understand how female desire works. Not knowing females are attracted to status, they believe women are attracted to provisioning, so they think their task-rabbit efforts of making their wives’ lives easier affords sex.

6. They can be guilted

Since they do not prioritize dignity, they can be convinced to feel guilt very easily. This internal feeling of being “guilty” makes them very pliable, and easy to order around. They feel they are fundamentally wrong, abdicating their frame.

This is done on a society-based level with guilting men about “toxic masculinity” and various behaviours deemed “harmful.” Pairbonders feel the guilt and shame of this, and become easily controlled to do the bidding of the cultural feminine imperative.

7. They’re naive to female instincts

They think women are governed by standards instead of instincts. Since women mate opportunistically, they can easily drop a man if his status falls. Women can rapidly move on and trade up, even after years together, leaving them heartbroken.

8. They pursue addiction rather than solutions

Since they do not prioritize dignity and assertiveness, they lack the confidence and self-belief to face their problems head on. After long enough, they usually turn to drugs or the bottle to quell the recurrent pain of heartbreak.

9. They seek attention

In contrast to tournament males, who prioritize assertiveness, pairbonders prioritize attention. These are the men that give fashion a bad name, using it like women use fashion. They post touchy-feely Facebook posts, and will play the victim. No one cares.

10. They’re ashamed of aggression

Due to the decades of cultural guilting around masculinity, they believe aggressiveness is akin to battery—harmful and shameful to express. This also leads to addiction as they displace this instinct to cope.

11. They’re often heartbroken

Since they do not prioritize their story, dignity, nor their status, they often suffer heartbreak as task-rabbiting doesn’t make their women like them more. Their identity is tied up in their relationships, and a part of them dies when they end.

12. They are romantic

Due to naivete of female instincts, they don’t understand women only find “romance” attractive if a man is higher status. It is a declaration of her coveted position as pampered and protected. Pairbonders do romance as a misguided strategy to get sex.

13. They are porn addicts

Because they don’t experience real female desire, they use porn to fantasize about being treated like a tournament male. It never occurs to them that to be treated that way requires pursuing status, so they clean up and go back to doing favours for sex.

14. They’re intimidated by brotherhood

They instinctually feel tournament men are different to them, so fear being vulnerable about their struggles, mimicking female competitive anxiety with their peers. They make the cardinal sin of instead being vulnerable with their partner.

Tournament males and their instincts are the only thing that can help pairbonders solve their problems.

Conclusion

It is a shame, because tournament males and their instincts are the only thing that can help them solve their problems. Their problem is their cultural programming and over-dominant pairbonder machinery. They need to be mentored by an unabashed tournament male to succeed.